The Funny Bone - Really!

There are so many serious and sad events in the news . For some reason as I felt myself getting sad over these recent events I started to think about some of the funny people in my life.  

My Aunt and my Grandfather, both passed away many years ago, were very funny people.  I get a warm feeling whenever I think of them. I think people with a sense of humor are remembered in a special way.  

My son-in-law has great funny one-liners.  We recently had a conversation about a mutual friend.  I am worried about her recent choice in men and said so to my son-in-law.  ”But I think she is just lonely right now and wants some companionship” I said to him.  “Oh he is just a “placeholder” my son-in-law replied.  I chuckled then and I still chuckle whenever I think of his comment.  It takes some of the sting out of the worry.  Humor really does “lighten the load”.

I am not funny at all –ever.   When I was young, even as a child, I think I felt like life was very serious and my mood reflected that. I’m definitely more light hearted than I was when I was younger. But I still can never think of anything funny to say.  I never tell a joke because I am like Nemo’s father in “Finding Nemo”.  I just sound stupid.  I guess my funny bone is  missing! 

Maybe I can borrow his!

   
I envy people who can make others laugh. I guess humor is, like a lot of things in life, a gift.  I’ll keep hoping my sense of humor will develop because funny people do create happiness in so many small and big ways. Thanks to all those who have a sense of humor.  Keep making the rest of us laugh!

The "common good"? Does it exist?

As I listen to the politicians criticize and berate the opposing political party over the situation in Ukraine I am confronted again with the sad state of our national politics.

Our culture seems to be obsessed with the blame game. Immediately after an event happens the focus shifts to who or what to blame for the crisis rather than how to help or even heal.  Perhaps divisive comments and blame make “good” news and thus become the focus of the media.   But even if that is the principal reason for the blame game we should pause to consider that such a penchant can create damage to our national psyche and culture. It trickles down to business, communities and even families.

Sometimes determining responsibility is a good thing if it will lead to preventative measures or even if there should be some consequence. But should it be the principal focus?

Can we reframe our psyche to see a problem that we all must work together to solve? There is a "common good" – something we all value that we all share and which we want to promote or protect.   If we can’t seem to find that maybe we should do some national or personal soul searching to find it. Let’s rally around our "common good" putting aside our differences so we can work together for the "common good".  And let’s recognize and promote those who do rather than those who don’t. We will feel much better about ourselves and our nation if we are engaged in a positive, productive ventures rather than tearing each other down.